My best friend recently got married to a man she’s only known for six weeks. I am not one to stand in the way of “true love” but I really don’t feel like she’s known him long enough to be having an instant family, especially when she has a teenage daughter and two smaller children. I really feel like she just wanted to get married and anyone willing to take on the task would suffice. She’s always got a new love interest and any of them could have been “the one” if they would have shown up with a brass ring.

She seems to be really into him, but I personally don’t like him, he gives me the creeps. He’s too damn touchy- feely with everyone, especially her daughter who happens to be one of these “mega-teens,” she has more rump, bumps and hips than I do. He’s always wrestling, tickling and patting her fourteen-year-old little girl on the ass! She has two sons and I NEVER, EVER see him interacting with them like this. I’m not certain if all this marital bliss has this chick blind as a bat, but she’s really acting like she doesn’t see any of this and it’s starting to piss me off.

Being that she just got hitched, I knew I had to ease into this conversation about her new husband other wise she would get an attitude and I would never be able to make my point. (I really want to do a background check, I bet he’s a pervert) I invited her to dinner and a movie, during dinner I inquired about how married life was going and how the kids were adjusting to having (another) a new man in their lives. She said that everything was wonderful and that Shayla really loves him because he always does special things for her, like buying her video games and taking her shopping. (All of which is a red flag to me.) He let’s her stay up way past her bed time on school nights watching movies with him, meanwhile everyone else – including his “new wife” is fast asleep. He even takes naps in Shayla’s bed! Claiming that her “twin” bed is more comfortable than theirs, unbelievable! I asked how the boys were adjusting and she said that they were “jealous” of all the attention Chris gives to Shayla and that Chris is a bit harder on the boys, saying that they need to toughen up. They are only seven and three! How tough do they need to be at this age? Is it me, or is this chick crazy? Does she hear what she’s saying to me!!! I pulled out my compact just to  see if there was smoke coming out of my ears… So I asked her, “do you see a problem with your new husband being so close with only one of your children?” And just as I knew – she said she does not. I told her that I was uncomfortable with the way Chris is always groping everyone, especially Shayla and that she needs to start paying attention. Further more, you have two sons that I think he should be trying to bond with as well. She said that he is a very affectionate person and he doesn’t mean anything by it.

I’m really not trying to stir up any commotion, but I truly do not trust this guy, I think he’s a pervert and I wouldn’t be surprised to hear that he was a pedophile. I really need someone else to assess this situation because maybe I am just being over protective because I love my best friend like a sister. Am I overreacting, or does it seem like any of this should be a problem to her?

Signed,

Everybody Hates Chris

Dear Everybody Hates Chris,

It’s refreshing to see that people still genuinely care about the welfare of others enough to get envolved. It seems that you have quite a dilemma on your hands with wanting to protect your best friend and her children. Your friend may be to engulfed with her new situation and therefore is not paying as close attention as she should. Although you have limited authority and control over her decisions, at least you took the preliminary steps to make her aware. It may not seem as though she heard you, but I am certain that she will begin to take notice of his behavior. All you can do is  monitor her daughters behavior and attitude, if she begins to become withdrawn, angry or depressed it could signal that something has transpired. Continue to bring it to her attention for as long as she will hear it, that’s really all you can do. Let’s hope that Chris is not a pervert for Shayla’s sake.